May we all never have mother-in-law issues should be a big prayer point for every mother to be. Myself and my mother-in-law haven’t spoken or seen in years.
Myself and hubby met in the university, he was 2 years my senior. A very brilliant,charming young man. He has always been a business minded person, he was once a fish farmer, dry cleaner and also a tutor. That was the attraction for me; he helped me start a business as well while we were in school.
He finished service and got a job in a reputable company but the entrepreneur in him didn’t allow him stay too long in this company. He has always loved farming so I wasn’t surprised when he started a pig and fish farming business .
My partner’s family likes me a whole lot (or so they seem to show) but my mother-in-law doesn’t fail to show that she dislikes me from the very first day I stepped into their house.
From the minute she asked where I was from and what church I attend , she made it known to me that she doesn’t like any one that is from my state and that my church even made it worse ( I am from Ijebu and I attend a white garment church while hubby is from south-south and he attends the kingdom hall church ) . I can remember vividly that on that day, as soon as has she made her thoughts known; she stood up and entered into her room. While I was set to leave, I knocked on her door to let her know and she said “don’t enter, you are leaving, okay, bye”.
On our way, I told hubby “It seems your mother doesn’t like me” but he said “May be she’s not in a good mood, don’t worry, she will come around when next you come over”.
But since then, I never got to see her again, It’s either she’s sleeping or she’s not around. There are even some times I would want to visit and hubby will tell me not to come that we should meet up at an eatery.
I should have sensed foul play but he proposed and I said yes. He came with his dad and his brothers to meet my parent and talk about marriage rites, that was when everything came out to play.
I was on my way for a job interview when I received a call from my mother-in-law “You can’t marry my son, I have told him to tell you that you can never be my daughter-in-law and it seems he is been stubborn, I am his mother, I gave birth to him and he can never go against my wishes” and she hung up before I could ask why. I couldn’t go for the job interview, I went back home, weeping.
I told my mum what happened and she tried calling her to ask why but as soon as she found out it was my mother, she hung up. I called my hubby to explain what happened to him and I asked him “your mother said she told you to cut it off why haven’t you done so” and he said “because I love you and nothing can come between us “. As if that wasn’t enough my father-in-law called me and begged me to cut the relationship between myself and his son, that he doesn’t want anything that will destroy his family.
That was when hubby said we should do a court wedding. I told my parents and they were in full support. We had the court wedding (his brothers were in attendance), got a one-bedroom apartment and he cut ties with his mother and father all because of me.
We’ve been married 3 years now, I have a good job, his business ventures are doing very well, we have a son and I am pregnant with twins. My father-in-law has also come around and he visits to see his grandson but my mother-in-law is still bitter towards me and hubby. I don’t want to have my babies without her seeing them (she has never seen my son before; she didn’t even call to congratulate us). Now mother-in-law is sick, she’s been in the hospital for about 4 weeks now and we haven’t gone to see her though she’s not asking after us because I asked my sister-in-law but I feel she needs to meet her grand kids . How do I go about this situation?
What advice do you have for this poster ?