I am a mom of 2 beautiful kids with contradicting characters. except for their striking resemblance,there character will never give them away as siblings.
My first son, who is 4 years old(we call him coolie O) is so calm, listens to instructions and even as a baby, didn’t stress me in any way. He hardly cries and is warm towards people, which made it very easy for me to go back to work after my maternity leave. I felt blessed and really lucky…. I mean who wouldn’t want a quiet calm baby.
I stopped breastfeeding him at 5 months because I wasn’t lactating well and had to supplement. To my surprise my Coolie O took it well, and adjusted to formula feeding without any fuss. It was almost like, he was actually waiting for it.
The only period my coolie O flinched was when he was teething, but over time, some part of me wished he had a bit of fire in him, instead of him obeying every order like a soldier. Even his class teachers like him because he is not a trouble maker he always pick up the well-behaved plaque at school ……….
Fast forward to 2 years later, I had my second boy (even though I wished for a girl, but God knows best) . He didn’t waste anytime in identifying himself as the “fire Cracker”. He made me understand that there are 2 sides to a coin…lol. He cries out at any slight irritation… wee- cry, poo-cry, food-cry, sleep-cry, bath-cry….. He is Martin-Luther King Jnr…. he raises his voice and makes his opinion known at everything. He refused to be formula-fed and I had to do exclusive for 8 months….chai!…. After that he switched to solids ( amala, wheat, cereals, no other soup than ewedu). At 11 months he started walking and then we had “the rise of the titan” . When he is excited about things , he doesn’t listen to anyone and you can hardly find him sitting for too long. Yelling at him is also not an option, as he will give you this “are you alright” look without being scared and let me also mention that his curiosity increases as he gets older?
As much as I try not to compare them, at some point I wished he was more like his elder brother( after all,they are siblings) , who he bullies like Mike Tyson would bully an amateur boxer. Although he has a small frame, he is never scared to do things because of his curious mind, and trust me this can be stressful.
However, one day, I sat down , picked up a pen and wrote down the differences between my 2 kids, no one would believe they are siblings because of their distinct characters. then I realised this is who they are, and my fire cracker will obey me with time and consistency. The more I give him too much attention, he will keep seeing himself as king, so I have decided to just let him be hyperactive at this stage and I am sure he will calm down at his own pace .
Is there any mum who can relate to this?
Mum coolie O from Wuse, Abuja
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